I have been reading your material already for some years but now it is actually the first time I read it on this platform. What took me so long? Well, as you write, a slight frame shift and things look differently.
Loved the reframe ladder, and I keep landing in the messy middle where a thought feels 60 percent true and 40 percent fear. My fix is naming both sides out loud, then writing one action sentence that survives contact with Tuesday at 3:17 pm, because motivation always disappears by then. Your piece sharpened that habit.
How can I reframe, "My dog is dead. I'll never see her again?" I'm sincerely asking you for help. I want to try reframing, I want to try anything to stop the pain. It's nearly unimaginable this time.
To be honest, this is not a situation where reframing helps. Reframing works on the stories we tell ourselves that create unnecessary suffering. But your grief is not unnecessary. It's real, and it deserves to be felt, not bypassed.
Be patient with yourself. Focus on the good memories. The love was real. That doesn't go away.
This was a perfect Monday Morning article! Thank you for showing us how to reframe our recurrent thoughts.
Thanks for reading! Glad it’s useful.
This article is helpful in so many ways!
Thank you for your insight on this, I needed this today.
Thanks for reading!
Marc
Most of these insights/recommendations align with my personal experiences.
Thank you. Great definition of refrain.
Thanks for reading!
I have been reading your material already for some years but now it is actually the first time I read it on this platform. What took me so long? Well, as you write, a slight frame shift and things look differently.
Nice! Good to hear.
Loved the reframe ladder, and I keep landing in the messy middle where a thought feels 60 percent true and 40 percent fear. My fix is naming both sides out loud, then writing one action sentence that survives contact with Tuesday at 3:17 pm, because motivation always disappears by then. Your piece sharpened that habit.
Let me share another one!
Old way: I have to do this (exercise, work etc)
New way: I am getting do this!
The new way frames it better like an opportunity :)
wow great article!!!
Fantastic post!
Glad it’s useful, Wesam.
How can I reframe, "My dog is dead. I'll never see her again?" I'm sincerely asking you for help. I want to try reframing, I want to try anything to stop the pain. It's nearly unimaginable this time.
To be honest, this is not a situation where reframing helps. Reframing works on the stories we tell ourselves that create unnecessary suffering. But your grief is not unnecessary. It's real, and it deserves to be felt, not bypassed.
Be patient with yourself. Focus on the good memories. The love was real. That doesn't go away.