This was a much needed read 🌻✨ Thank you for this article. I’m saving this and re reading this weekly just to keep myself and my writing accountable, and just get started without outside validation or pressure to write or create content
I had the exact same thought while reading this. It’s one of those pieces I know I’ll keep coming back to whenever I get stuck overthinking instead of creating.
This really resonated with me because it challenges the assumption that every meaningful pursuit has to begin with a public announcement.
I think we're living in a culture that celebrates declaring goals more than quietly pursuing them. But most durable careers, businesses, and bodies of work are built in obscurity first.
There's also a job search lesson here. You don't need to announce that you're "building your personal brand" or "networking strategically." You can quietly improve your skills, publish thoughtful work, reconnect with people, and become someone opportunities naturally find.
As someone who started this 13 months ago, I made the mistake of telling it to more people than I needed to. Which put a lot of pressure on me, and made me screw up for the first six months.
Since that 6 month mark, I got mad quiet about it, and when some people ask me about it, I simply reply "slowly growing" and don't extend on it.
Everything has been going great since I took this approach.
My take home from this is I do not need to announce my new step to my EXISTING CIRCLE WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M DOING YET. I just have to keep doing it secretly building with an additional one online until it's finally ready.
i think there's something really freeing about building quietly. no audience to impress, just keeping promises to yourself until one day people notice the work instead of the announcement.
In my opinion most people are just caught by the outside noise of portraying oneself as starting somethings but never answering the simple question as do they really want it? And if they fail then they leave it midway without continuing.
If one is having the grit of doing what he wants. Then eventually they will succeed on their terms.
Great article. I was very pleased to see that I fell into your six steps like a happy accident. For the first 3 weeks, I just worked. I didn't tell my wife, but she knew I was doing something. Now we are starting to build the next steps together and I feel like I am working on something meaningful again.
It's all down to how we think and our perceptions. Once we know our values and where we want to go in life, we can curate habits and actions and plans to get there. Also, consistency comes from a type of thinking. Not everybody can be consistent, even if they had the perfect plan. The ones that can stay consistent are the strong-minded ones.
That energy to sleep relationship is an eyeopener for me. When our mind enjoys a work more than sleep let that happen and it gets relaxed this way too. No hard feelings anymore.
Thank you for this ....like truly everything described here was exactly what I felt too. I'm trying to teach myself some tools I know I'll need for my carrer in financial engneering in the futur and I wanted to teach myself through books and practice regularly...but after 4 days I would ask myself like ...what am I doing...who am I to even start this early, and this voice gets even louder when I see my peers and classmates not caring that much ...and this feeling of loneliness makes me doubt myself and then I break the momentum, I heard exactly what I needed to hear in this article. Thank you!
This was a much needed read 🌻✨ Thank you for this article. I’m saving this and re reading this weekly just to keep myself and my writing accountable, and just get started without outside validation or pressure to write or create content
Appreciate that!
I had the exact same thought while reading this. It’s one of those pieces I know I’ll keep coming back to whenever I get stuck overthinking instead of creating.
Happy to hear that!
Great idea about re-reading it! 😊
This really resonated with me because it challenges the assumption that every meaningful pursuit has to begin with a public announcement.
I think we're living in a culture that celebrates declaring goals more than quietly pursuing them. But most durable careers, businesses, and bodies of work are built in obscurity first.
There's also a job search lesson here. You don't need to announce that you're "building your personal brand" or "networking strategically." You can quietly improve your skills, publish thoughtful work, reconnect with people, and become someone opportunities naturally find.
The loud part usually comes much later.
The quiet reps are what make it possible.
As someone who started this 13 months ago, I made the mistake of telling it to more people than I needed to. Which put a lot of pressure on me, and made me screw up for the first six months.
Since that 6 month mark, I got mad quiet about it, and when some people ask me about it, I simply reply "slowly growing" and don't extend on it.
Everything has been going great since I took this approach.
Great article, dude, truly appreciated.
this is such a great read! something about building quietly, away from everyone’s opinions, just feels right.
My take home from this is I do not need to announce my new step to my EXISTING CIRCLE WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M DOING YET. I just have to keep doing it secretly building with an additional one online until it's finally ready.
i think there's something really freeing about building quietly. no audience to impress, just keeping promises to yourself until one day people notice the work instead of the announcement.
Good read brother.
In my opinion most people are just caught by the outside noise of portraying oneself as starting somethings but never answering the simple question as do they really want it? And if they fail then they leave it midway without continuing.
If one is having the grit of doing what he wants. Then eventually they will succeed on their terms.
I can see that.
Great article. I was very pleased to see that I fell into your six steps like a happy accident. For the first 3 weeks, I just worked. I didn't tell my wife, but she knew I was doing something. Now we are starting to build the next steps together and I feel like I am working on something meaningful again.
I just wanted to say that what you wrote here is incredibly constructive. I especially loved the part about working on yourself in private:
“You don’t. You can do real work for months, even a year, with nobody knowing. That’s not hiding. That’s focus.”
That really resonated with me. It’s such an important reminder that not everything meaningful needs to be shared while it’s still being built.
It's all down to how we think and our perceptions. Once we know our values and where we want to go in life, we can curate habits and actions and plans to get there. Also, consistency comes from a type of thinking. Not everybody can be consistent, even if they had the perfect plan. The ones that can stay consistent are the strong-minded ones.
Magic happens when you donot care
Great read. The missed shots nobody remembers-once you score a point. The switch then turns on
Fear is our biggest prison. We find every excuse, but fear is what keeps holding us back.
This is quiet motivational and your thoughts sounds like mine….thank you for sharing your work
That energy to sleep relationship is an eyeopener for me. When our mind enjoys a work more than sleep let that happen and it gets relaxed this way too. No hard feelings anymore.
Thank you for this ....like truly everything described here was exactly what I felt too. I'm trying to teach myself some tools I know I'll need for my carrer in financial engneering in the futur and I wanted to teach myself through books and practice regularly...but after 4 days I would ask myself like ...what am I doing...who am I to even start this early, and this voice gets even louder when I see my peers and classmates not caring that much ...and this feeling of loneliness makes me doubt myself and then I break the momentum, I heard exactly what I needed to hear in this article. Thank you!
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