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Jim Devine's avatar

What a refreshing dose of honesty. The “don’t meet your heroes” observation is one I’ve felt personally, and it’s worth unpacking.

I was initially demoralized when I discovered the truth about Napoleon Hill. By all accounts, he was a fraud. He never met Andrew Carnegie, and the interviews with successful individuals that formed the foundation of Think and Grow Rich were largely fabricated. And yet, it remains one of the best-selling books in history, with estimated sales between 70 and 100 million copies. He died in the 1970s with roughly 30 million in print, meaning another 40 to 70 million copies sold in the half century since his death. He is widely credited with launching the entire self-help industry.

That realization forced me to confront something I had struggled with my entire life, the inability to separate the messenger from the message. The message, it turns out, still has value. The messenger was deeply flawed.

Your post is a reminder that most of what we consume online is performance, not truth. For those of us committed to integrity, that’s not discouraging, it’s an opening. And at the very least, we can look ourselves in the mirror and know we chose the harder, more honest path.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Darius Foroux's avatar

That’s very interesting. Thanks for sharing!

Chaiharan L.'s avatar

Days by days.. the cost of being real and something that look real is no longer matter.. it is just how ppl view that that matters.. as long as it seems real enough.. nobody would question.. and even some would question lesser one would be able to confirm... Until everything that looks real are just fake. That is when what is authentic matter.. because it will stand out...

But when?

Darius Foroux's avatar

That’s it. I think we’re getting closer and closer to that point.

Chaiharan L.'s avatar

Nah I don't think so.. it is still far from that point. The mass adoption phase of AI still nowhere near the plateau.. it is just the foot of that high hill where we are.

This will be years , maybe decade.. not days not month.

I wrote things about AI and how it think and talk. And I can see the journey is just beginning

Darius Foroux's avatar

Haha you sound very confident. Your view is a bit too pessimistic for me my friend.

Mansi Kwatra's avatar

Love this entire post. It speaks so much truth that I believe all of us as users of internet must know. Showing up authentically on the internet is not easy task at all. Most of us struggle to find our alignment in the real world itself. But making constant efforts towards being authentic will never go to waste. Even if we don't end up gaining traction, there is a sense of peace in knowing that we were growing by into a better version of ourselves by being authentic all along.

Darius Foroux's avatar

That’s true, Mansi. Thanks for reading!

Cedric Watine's avatar

Thank you, Darius. Sincerity is not dead. It is back. When everything is fake, being sincere is a big advantage. Not transparency. Sincerity.

Darius Foroux's avatar

Well said, Cedric.

Martin Wigert's avatar

Great piece of advice - thank you for reminding us!

Darius Foroux's avatar

Thanks for reading!

Larry Connor's avatar

I completely agree with your article. I have 3400+ "friends " on Facebook and I post pictures of my jobs (I'm a handyman) and you know who "Likes" and gives feedback are close friends and family. I'm good with that. I just turned 65 and would love to go back to the 1970s-80s when life was casual and not the fake existence we live in now.

Larry Connor

Darius Foroux's avatar

Hey Larry. I think a lot of people can relate to this. So true about the close friends and family. Thanks for reading and taking the time to leave a note.

Donald Voigt's avatar

Insightful article. Any ideas on what a person of integrity can do to change the world...? Asked sincerely....Don

Darius Foroux's avatar

Thanks. I tend to think, “how can I help solve a problem for someone?” Thinking small.

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Darius Foroux's avatar

That’s fair.